Please Stop Wearing These 3 Things (at any age)

I’ve learned so much from simplifying my closet and dressing with a small capsule wardrobe. While I’ve learned what best fits my body and my lifestyle, most of the lessons have nothing to do with clothing.

I typically steer away from making recommendations on what you should wear, but feel strongly that none of us (at any age) need to wear the following three things ever again. Don’t worry, I’m not coming for your jeans, leggings, comfort clothes or anything else you love to wear.

Instead, I want to give you permission to feel lighter and to enjoy your life more by refusing to wear these 3 things we’ve all dressed in before. It may not come naturally, and will require some practice but it will get easier and easier to remove these things from your life.

Please Stop Wearing These 3 Things

These things to stop wearing (as you’ve probably guessed) aren’t external things we wear like makeup, jewelry, a t-shirt, trousers or ties but instead, I’m talking about things we wear on the inside. That’s where the heavy stuff usually lies.

If we could let these things go, stop wearing them on our sleeves and our hearts, what would we have the energy, clarity and time for? What could we create or appreciate? How would our lives change if we simply said, enough is enough when it comes to these three things.

1. Stop wearing the guilt of your past.

Guilt and regret about the past actions and behaviors aren’t helping you show up for your life now, in the present moment. In fact, because of that guilt, you aren’t fully enjoying your current life.

Whether it is guilt about letting go of something in your closet that you spent too much on, or guilt about a past relationship or anything in between, you have paid enough. You’ve paid with your money, time, attention and emotion. You can stop paying now.

Let go, apologize, forgive and choose to live free of guilt and regret. As they say, life is too short. We can’t spend our time stressing over things that have already happened. Learn what lessons the past offered you and then release what came before so you can be present for your life today.

2. Stop wearing the pressure to prove yourself.

I rarely bought clothes, accessories, skirts or boots because I actually needed more clothes. I had plenty. Instead I purchased clothing to feel a certain way and to be perceived a certain way … to prove myself. I wanted to feel smart, beautiful and loved. I wanted other people to think I was those things too.

I tried to prove who I was by what I wore and by what I accomplished. I was always measuring myself by how much I got done. Check marks on my to-do list were a measuring system that failed me over and over again. The problem was that there was always more to do and more to prove and eventually I forgot who I was in the process.

Over time I decided to slow down, choose happiness and prioritize what was important to me instead of what I thought might be important to everyone else.

If you have to prove yourself to people you love, that isn’t love. If you struggle to prove yourself at work, maybe you aren’t doing the right work. If you don’t believe me, just stop for a while. Stop pushing and proving and wishing that people would see you the way you think you need to be seen to succeed. Instead, let them see you for you.

Once you stop proving yourself, you can be yourself.

3. Stop wearing the weight of other people’s expectations and judgements.